Marriage and happiness, interesting as I would not put those two words together based on my marriage. Marriage and hell would be more like my analogy, but then I didn't marry the love of my life. Shame on me for settling. Lesson to be learned, settle with the wrong one and marriage will not equate happiness, it will equate guaranteed lifelong misery, and suffering. Think I'm kidding, just try it, it's sheer hell on earth. However, according to this recent study of actual happy couples, marriage does make one happier than being flying solo. Well isn't that a bit of sunshine folks? Just what we singles want to hear! Well, I think it's just great, for those of whom are in happy marriages that is. I'm happy for them. Why I'm thrilled to pieces to know that happily married couples are happier than single people .Yes, I am seriously, why I am just overflowing with joy that marrieds are happier than singles.
Bitter? No. Envious? Perhaps, or more a feeling of why not me? I'm quite sure I am not alone in my feeling of "why not me?" Why not, us of whom are single, divorced, or widowed? Why didn't we get so lucky as to find our soul mate, so we too could be happier as a married person than as a single person? I do believe that the men and women that found their "one" and married, are happier than we of whom have not found our "one", and are still single or are divorced. I am of the opinion that many people fool themselves into believing that being single is better. I think many single men believe that being macho and studly, is whats most important. I think many independent and loose women feel their way, is the way to everlasting happiness. I disagree. The married couples that are happy couples, they've got it all, they really do.
From the beginning of time the man upstairs wanted men and women to marry, procreate, grow old, and die together. For awhile people went with that. Somewhere down the road many got selfish and decided marriage and family was not where it was at. For that I believe we've lost our way as a culture. I believe far too many men and women marry for the wrong reasons hence giving marriage a bad name. In that regard I find a recent study concluding that married people are happier people, refreshing. For those couples that have married their true love, built a life, and are growing old together, I say congratulations. I truly believe that those are the couples that found the key to what life is all about.
All one needs to do to see that married people are happier people is to look at a crotchety old single man, or a catty old single woman. In observance one is able to see that the single life is not kind. Let's face it those handsome brooding men who may well have conquered women near and far, do not stay handsome forever. No Steven the super stud at seventy can be spotted sporting nose and ear hair. I ask what is up with that? For some unknown reason, nostril and ear hair seems to grow on elderly men like weeds, and their eyebrows become unruly. I guess old age prevents these men from using tweezers. On second thought it is probably due to not having a wife who owns tweezers and a wife to tell him that he is overgrown and unkempt. Not only that as per a recent conversation with a married woman I was informed of unmentionable things happening to aging men. Apparently "things" begin to deteriorate that one didn't know could. From the expression on this happily married woman's face I was afraid to ask. Needless to say she did say those "things" happening" are far easier with someone with whom one grows old with, and not something one would want to experience off the bat. Likewise, it is far easier to grow old 'with" a woman than to get her as a senior citizen. Suzy the skinny super slut who thought she was all that, and didn't care to settle down doesn't fare too well either, but better than her male counterparts. As women are far more apt to go under the knife, women do preserve themselves better than men, or do they? Meet Suzy super slut at sixty, and she's blown up with fillers, pulled,tucked and lifted, bitter,and bitchy, and is a prime of example of married people being happier people.
Married people are happier people? Do I buy it? I buy i,t with the couples that married for love. Those whom have found their perfect partner have what I, and so many of us have always wanted, a best friend with chemistry. Those people have someone to call with good or bad news, have someone to have their back, as they have theirs. Married people have someone to go home to, or someone who's home for them. Married people have someone with whom to share their hopes and dreams, and someone to encourage to pursue their hopes and dreams. Married people make "love" and not do "it" just for sex. Married people have someone with whom to cuddle, and someone with whom to tell to get away when it's too hot and their warmth is unneeded. Married people who are "happily married" I believe are indeed happier people. As many of us may be asking "why not me", we also can find happiness in knowing that the fairy tale of marriage and happily ever after, does in fact exist. I settled when I married and I now know that happy marriages do exist, and for that I am hopeful as we all should be. I would like to someday meet the "right" one and be part of that study of the married people whom are happier people. Yes I do admit I would like to again marry, but I would never again settle. As much as studies tout how married people are happier people, I don't totally agree. The fact is one is happier being single and unmarried, than being with the wrong one and married, and therefore I am still saying, "I'd rather be single...for now!"
(c)Sean Bianca 2015