As a twenty something young woman I was disappointed in the lack of quality men, but somewhat accepting. As a twenty something I expected men to be immature. I also expected men in their twenties to have a one track mind as in, "sex, sex," and more "sex"! As a thirty something I expected men to be of more substance, and I was again disappointed. Now as a forty something I am no longer disappointed in the lack of quality and substance in men, but appalled. It appears most men are just complete ding dongs that clearly are ruled by their own little ding dongs.
A man's brain is of no importance when it comes to men and affairs of the heart. I believe a man can be the most intelligent man on the planet and yet it is of no importance when it comes to how a man behaves with women. Furthermore a man's intelligence is of little or no importance when it comes to a man's choice of a partner. I once thought that once men entered adulthood, sex would yes be important to men, but not so important as to make poor decisions in choosing a mate or as to how he behaved with a woman. I was oh so wrong. Apparently most men never grow out of the thinking with their penis mindset, and so yet again I am disappointed in men.
Recently I went out on a date with a forty something year old divorced man with two children. I was not overly attracted to this man, but thought I'd give him a chance and see if perhaps he would grow on me. Rule number one, "never ever let some one grow on you"! Apparently I myself have not learned as I know only all too well that one does not want a man to grow on her like a fungus. Nonetheless I gave it a shot. Never again will I be so kind as to give a man a chance and see if a spark could possibly appear. Never. I say never as this dodo expected to get laid by the date's end. Seriously? The first date? Seriously, at the age of forty something a man has this mindset? Yes, seriously.
Date one, sex? Give me a flipping break! While not my style I could somewhat understand if the chemistry between this schmuck and I was just oh so strong that one could almost see fireworks above our heads, but such was not the case. The truth was there were no fireworks. Not a spark, nor a flicker. Nothing, and yet this man asked me if he could come back to my place. While appalled that his man could be so forward, I had to give him credit for being bold. With zero chemistry and my being somewhat distant, and cold this man actually asked if he could go back to my place? Unbelievable! What's even more unbelievable was this man's attitude towards me after I had turned him down. Why this little ding dong did a complete 360 with his personality. He went from flirtatious, fun, and all too handsy, to cold, serious, offish, and rude in a millisecond! It was actually quite, funny and amusing really. It was as if I had hit a switch. This man went from smiley and cutesy to stern and serious. I mean this dodo couldn't even fake his disappointment in his evening not turning out as he had planned. Not since my college days have I had a man actually turn on a dime and act like a little grump because he could not get laid. While as an adult I've had many men attempt to get into my pants, I've never had one, be one, so bold, and two, so rude.
Again I am disappointed by the male species, but not without hope that a few good men do still exist. Where they are, I haven't a clue, but I do believe they are out there. I once thought it to be location, but it is a fact that from here to Timbuktu , both men and woman have difficulty in meeting "the one". While a good lot of men and women may well be fine with accepting mediocrity and having someone, as opposed to no one, I am not one of them. Unlike many of the men today I choose to think with my brain and my heart. My brain knows that if I settle for less I will not be available for the best. I know what I want and it's not a man that expects sex with a virtual stranger on date number one, and that's why I'm still walking away and saying, "I'd rather be single...for now!"
(C)Sean Bianca 2016