Thursday, February 12, 2015

Do All Men Cheat?

      "Men will be men and cheat." "All men cheat." "Men think with their penises and not their heads." "Men are incapable of being monogamous." These are just a sampling of how many women feel about men and their being faithful. Apparently I have been living under a rock in that I truly believed that there were a few good men out there that were capable of being faithful. Is it true? Is it true that all men are incapable of being with just one woman? Is it true that it is impossible for a man to be faithful to his wife, fiance' or girlfriend? Are women jaded by past experiences or are they correct? 

       Do all men cheat? As bad as the majority of men are I guess I still had a shred of hope that there were still a few "good" guys. I really thought that some men did have scruples and values. Perhaps I've been a dreamer. I truly was of the belief that there was someone for everyone and that the someone would be faithful.I also gave men credit for outgrowing wanting to bang anything and everything. Maybe I've been naive in believing that men could be loyal to just one woman. Am I that dumb to have hope for myself and my friends to be able to meet our one true love who will love us through sickness and in health, for richer for poorer, through thick and through thin? 

      Monogamy, is it a thing of the past or is it something that never existed? Is the institution of marriage and faithfulness gone with the lack of morals and accountability of today? Sadly men being loyal to one woman may just be an impossibility. It is said that when men cheat that men are "just" having sex. Well that makes me feel so much better. Let me attempt to understand. If a man has a fling with some random chick, it's not love it's"just" sex, and that man still loves his wife, girlfriend or whatever? I'm not buying it. I'm not buying it as if a man truly loved the woman whom he claims to love then he wouldn't do something to hurt her. When a man cheats he might as well stick a knife into a woman's heart. It's unforgivable! Just because a man claims it was "just" sex does not heal a woman's broken heart. I ask how many men would forgive a woman if she "just" had sex, but claimed to still love her man? None or next to none! 

       A friend of mine who was was Latina informed me of a saying that Latin women had,"What my eyes can not see, my heart can not feel." These were words she lived by. In essence she told the love of her life, and father of her children that if he felt the need to stray that he respect her feelings and stray far away. I thought it was the dumbest thing I had ever heard. In my opinion one was giving their husband or significant other carte blanche to cheat. As long as a man had his affair in another city, state, or continent, it was okay. It's not okay! It's dishonest, it's disrespectful, and it's wrong. While many Latin women may be aokay with their man jumping in bed with another woman in another county, or country, I am not, and neither are a lot of women. Who wants a man that's had sex, excuse me "just" sex with some random woman? That woman may well be the best sex that man has ever had. That woman may have a perfect figure. That woman may well have a disease, and it's being "just" sex doesn't help if one catches something. A woman being told that it's "just" sex doesn't change a man's wishing his wife were as pretty, thin, or as good in bed as the "other" woman. 

     Do all men cheat? I really hope not. I do know of how one woman kept her hubby faithful. She told her husband of the horrors of AIDS and HIV on an almost daily basis. This poor guy was terrified to try and bed another woman. Another woman informed her husband that if she ever caught him cheating she would cut "it" off. Her husband was also petrified to stray. Other women just don't let their men out of their sight to ensure their men don't cheat. Seriously, many women work with their husbands as to never be apart from one another. It is difficult to cheat with one's wife attached to one's hip. As these women may well keep their men faithful, is it worth it? I want a man that WANTS to be faithful. I want a man that has little desire for another woman if he is with me. Is it okay for a man to "look" at another woman? Of course it is, but it is not okay to do anything else with another woman. I guess if a man has to be forced into staying faithful, I wouldn't want him. I also would not want a man who had "just" sex. Do all men cheat? I hope not, but if they do, "Id rather be single...for now!
(c)Sean Bianca2015

       

        

       

Sunday, February 8, 2015

Remember When Men...



Remember when men would call on a Wednesday for a date on Saturday, or when men would pick up a woman for dinner at eight? Remember when men would gladly pick up the check, and not expect sex after dates one, two or three? Remember when a man was satisfied with "just" a kiss? Or when a man would open a door, pull out a chair, and walk by a woman's side?  Or remember when a man would surprise a girl with flowers on a day other than Valentine's Day? Remember when a man would "dress" for a date? And lastly, remember when a man would call a girl after a first date to thank her for joining him? 

   Sadly I had forgotten when men behaved like gentlemen until reading an article on men and how they "used" to behave. The article brought me back to when dates were "real" dates. Upon looking back I realized that it's been quite sometime since I've had a "real" date. While I've been in relationships since my divorce in 2007, and while I've been on many dates as well, it dawned upon me that I've been on very few "real" dates. It also hit me, that men today are clueless as to how to treat a woman, act like a gentleman, and how to date.

   Is it that men have forgotten how to treat women today, or is it that women have allowed men to treat them in less than spectacular fashion? Which came first? There was a time when a man would not even think of asking a woman to "meet" him for a drink, coffee, or a movie. Men actually wanted to pick up a woman from her home to take her out, and not just meet her someplace. Men also would call a woman three or four days ahead to ask a woman out. Nowadays men think nothing of texting a woman to go out  for a drink or a bite in less than an hour. Regretfully I've succumbed and gone out with an hours notice. I admit it, I along with thousands of other women have allowed myself to be treated like an after thought or  a last option. I've actually thrown myself together in a matter of minutes so that I could have a "date". The pathetic thing of it is I didn't have a "date" I had casual half assed rendezvous at best.

    Why have I and other women allowed ourselves to not be treated like a real "lady"? I guess, due to the fear that if we demand more then perhaps the men will not want us. God forbid we be "single".  The truth is the men who do not call us in advance for a date do not really want us and we might as well be "single". The men who care not to get in their car and drive to pick women up for a date are not really into the women, and the men that only want to meet for a drink or coffee are not looking for a relationship, but merely a "hook-up". These men that don't pick up the phone to thank women for a nice time, are not falling head over heels, they're falling over with laughter at how "easy" and desperate women are. No when men that feel that little effort is needed to court a woman, they are not really interested in the woman at all. The truth is if a man does have real feelings for a woman, that man will call days ahead for a date. Not only that, but a man will also gladly drive to Timbuktu for a date, will gladly pay for dinner, and will not have a timeline as to when sex should be had. A man who is really "into" a woman does NOT keep a score card of how many dinners versus how many sexless nights.

   Hindsight is indeed twenty twenty. In looking back I made excuses for men and their poor behavior. I figured men were busy with work, family and friends, and had forgotten to call me sooner for a date. I made the excuse that I lived too far away and therefore I should drive to meet my date. I dated one man that actually  flew from New Jersey to see me, and yet I accepted a men living some thirty minutes away or less not picking me up. I accepted men not treating me for dinner as times were tough. I guess times are tough if a man is unemployed. Yes, I continuously made excuses for men that clearly were not worth my time,my breath, my gas, and wear and tear on the car. Thankfully I finally came to my senses and realized that If I am not worth a man's tank of gas, and wear and tear on his car then he is not worth mine either.

    Why do women accept mediocrity from men? Simple. Women accept being treated less than because they don't want to be alone. Most women, myself included would much prefer to be in a relationship with someone than not, but is it worth the cost? I dated one man that not once picked me up for a date. The best day of my being involved with him was the day I informed him that I did not want to drive down to see him ever again and that it was over. This man had been out of town for two weeks and he expected me to drive to him. Not only that but I was summoned to drive to see him on the day and hour of his call of course. I might have expected such immature, careless behavior from a teenager, but not from a fifty something. The fact is I'm worth more than having a man call me at the last minute. I have a great wardrobe and dammit all I want the time to get glammed up. I'm through rushing to pull myself together for so much nothing. I'm also worth a man's tank of gas, wear tear and mileage on his car  and so much more. Most women are worth a whole lot more than men are giving them credit for and it's quite unfortunate. Perhaps if women cease to say "how high", when an man says "jump", cease to drive to a man's home to watch a movie, or stop meeting men for drinks and booty calls, men will change, they'll have to change. If women start to demand more from men then just maybe the men will again be gentlemen. Perhaps our mothers, grand mothers and great grand mothers had it right when they forced men to treat them well. The men actually respected the women and the women respected the men as well. After pondering today's dating or lack of "real dating", I've decided I'm done with men treating me less than. I'm also done accepting poor behavior. I want a man that really truly wants me, and wants to put forth more than just a little effort in courting me. Until I find him, "I'd rather be single...for now!"
(c)Sean Bianca 2015

    

Friday, February 6, 2015

Phone Sex!


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 "Oh, Oh, Oh, baaaaby, right there, there, there, oh more, more, yes, yes, yes, YESSSSSSSS !" Phone sex, I've done it, friends have done it, and chances are most of us have done it at one or more times in our lives. Phone sex is just something we women do to please our men from time to time. Is it something women need? No. Is it something we women enjoy? We could probably take it or leave it, but it is an activity that most men seem to fancy, and why I will never know. How a man can get excited just from the sound of his woman's voice is beyond me, but apparently they can. As a good stiff wind is all is need for many men to get hot and bothered, a man being turned on by a woman's voice should not be of surprise. Bottom line, men love to participate in phone sex.

   The first time I was asked to perform sex via phone I was clueless as to what I was supposed to say or do. I just didn't get it. I wasn't sure if I was supposed to use my own voice, attempt a sexy voice, raspy voice, I just didn't know. Being one who could do dialects quite well I wondered if I should use my sophisticated British accent. I was pretty sure my old British lady voice would not be the voice to use, but I just didn't know. I thought perhaps "Marilyn Monroe", would be a good pick, but again I was at a loss. Did my man want "me" as "me", or did my man want some bimbo sex kitten from 1-800- Sex- such and such, I wasn't sure. All in all I thought "phone sex" was a bit ridiculous, but what the hell? I was a virgin who didn't know much, but I was pretty sure that I could not lose my virginity, nor get pregnant from phone sex, and that was all that mattered.

        As I got older I remained indifferent on sex by phone, but when in a serious relationship went with my man's desire for  sassy and sexy chit chat. Many times it was a relief as when my man was satisfied he was also FINALLY  able to get off of the phone. I personally could take or leave phone sex, but a man or two whom I dated seemed to find it necessary. As I was in serious relationships with these men I complied.

      Phone sex is just one of those things that many men like. It's something that we women do to keep our men satisfied or somewhat satisfied when we are apart. Phone sex is something that we women may not jump for joy over, but we do it. I'm quite sure men think that we women are thoroughly enjoying phone sex as much if not more than our men, but we are not. Many times we are flipping through fashion magazines, doing our nails, cleaning our homes, cuddling our dogs, or watching television. Disappointing as it may be, we women just don't get off on phone sex like men, but we do it to please. We do it to make our horny men, happy men!

      While phone sex is an activity that I and many women have participated in with our partners, it is NOT an activity to take part in with EVERY Tom, Dick, and Harry! No! I'm sorry phone sex is not something a woman does with EVERYONE! Somehow, someway, there are men that think nothing of asking for phone sex after only 2-3 dates! Seriously? Yes! Just recently a friend was asked by a new love interest to help get him off. He was "hard" for her. Really? Yes, really. This man had taken my friend out all of three times, and he had the nerve to ask for phone sex. My friend had shared all of two platonic kisses and this man informed her that he was "hard" for her? What a flipping freak! Guys we women do not want to hear that you're "hard, horny, hot, or anything until we have gotten to know you just a little. My poor friend now has a vision of this man holding his unit in one hand, and the phone in the other. This is not a picture one wants of a man whom one has been out with all of two or three times. It's disrespectful, gross, tasteless, and classless!

     Oh yes, do it to me, yes, yes, yes, ahhhhhhhhhh. Yup phone sex lingo, we all are capable of performing it, but with one whom we're seriously involved, not a post first date, or new romance. I guess I and friends are somewhat particular when we engage in phone sex. I guess I would hope men would share my sentiments. Maybe I'm wrong, maybe all men get off whenever the phone rings and it's a woman whom they have dated. Maybe I'm oblivious. Just maybe all men are "hard" when they speak to their women. Maybe all men do themselves while gabbing on the phone. I just don't know, and frankly I don't think I care to know. What I do know is that I am not one to go along with the phone sex charade with everyone and anyone, and if a prospective love interest did propose phone sex after only one or two dates, I would walk away and say, "I'd rather be single...for now!
(c)Sean Bianca 2015 

       

Thursday, February 5, 2015

My Deepest Sympathies To Men!

       Men may well be schmucks, shits, cheaters, and dingdongs, but I really have to express my deepest sympathies to men in the month of February. As this second month of the year holds the most hated holiday of the year by many men and women. Valentine's Day, the day of  candy hearts, chocolates, cards, balloons, bears, bouquets, and diamonds. Yes the day of romance is indeed the ever dreaded holiday by both men and surprisingly women.

      I personally feel sorry for men at this time of year. February 14th, is the official day for men to look like complete sapps as men near and far run around with flowers, big bears, and heart shaped boxes filled with fattening chocolates. These men really have to feel like complete ass whipped idiots, but do it anyway in the name of love. For a good many men, cute romantic gifts will not be sufficient as their lovely ladies will demand reservations at the best restaurants, jewels, romantic weekends and spa getaways. Men really do have it rough on this romantic holiday as it is a holiday that can make or break many a relationships.

     I ask why do we have this most hated holiday? As much as men believe women love Valentine's Day, they are wrong. We women dislike it as well. It is a day that demands men be nice to their women. It is a holiday that demands men be romantic and cough up gifts. In many cases men are resentful and therefore do nothing, or next to nothing. While I don't blame these men I also do not think men should take their frustrations out on their current love interest. The truth is most reasonable women do get it, but like it or not it's a stupid holiday that can not and should not be ignored.

    I personally dislike Valentine's Day in that it's just plain awkward. If one is in a serious relationship then women feel that a man should do something wonderful. Unfortunately women all have friends and we all have at least one friend who has a husband or boyfriend that just does it up right. This one friend's man will no doubt be gift our friend with some gorgeous watch, necklace or bracelet, take her to some five star restaurant and then surprise her with reservations at the Ritz. This one friend will make every other man look like a complete ungiving loser. Sadly the loser may well love his woman as much or even more than the big shot but his woman will feel unappreciated and miserable at what little was done for her. On the flip side if a couple is newly dating the holiday is awkward as well. Some men in new relationships will either do nothing, or avoid the whole holiday all together. What men do not realize is a woman in a new relationship does not expect the sun, moon, and stars. A woman also would be quite spooked if a man whom she had just started dating did do anything grand, as a man newly in a relationship would be insane to do anything over the top. However, flowers would be nice, but nooooo, many men will just think that ignoring the whole hellish holiday is the best policy. Unfortunately it is not. In ignoring the holiday the woman feels unwanted, or feels that there must be another woman who her new love is wining and dining on the delightful evening of Valentine's Day. In essence men just can't win. 

     On this Valentine's Day I no doubt believe that there will be break ups, make-ups, satisfied men and women in the bedroom as well as unsatisfied men and women in the bedroom. While those coupled will be wining, dining, swooning and mooning, singles will be happy to be alone and not at risk for disappointment. This year the long awaited "Fifty Shades Of Grey" will premiere and be the focus of many on this Valentine's Day. Men will no doubt be dragged to see what a real man does with his woman, and be later tested at home. As women will be dreaming of "Grey", while their man is in their bed, their man will be dreaming of sleep and getting ready for work the next morning, and I have to feel sorry for these men. Seriously, I would like to express my deepest sympathies to men on this Valentine's Day, and I am just very happy to be saying, "I'd rather be single...for now!"
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Wednesday, January 28, 2015

He Actually "LIKES" Her!

       Dating and marriage today in my opinion has gotten a little too, shall I say "businesslike". In today's world I feel like many singles are choosing partners for who looks best on one's arm, who can pony up the most jewels and trips, and who can take care of the other. Unfortunately many couples today are not choosing partners with whom they have chemistry, really like, and actually care about. Hence why in today's world there are so many failed marriages, and screwed up relationships. It's tough enough to have a long lasting relationship, and as many people are with partners they tolerate or don't even like it's a rarity to see a truly happy couple.

    True love does still exist for those who want it and wait for it. In a recent conversation with a newly married man I was happy to hear that some people still believe in the real thing. This man informed me that he had little to no desire to go out on the town and have a "guys night out". The way he put it was, "I actually really like my wife, and spending time with her". Those words were music to my ears as that's what I and many girlfriends of mine have wanted to hear from a man. A man that no longer needs his nights on the town with the guys because he has a girlfriend or wife that he "wants" to be with. This man told me that his wife was his best friend. I thought that was sweet. I also thought back at what I always said I wanted in a partner, "a best friend with chemistry'.

      Some men would beg to disagree with this man, and if they do I say they haven't met the right one. I guess my feeling is, is that men should have "guy's night out", out of their systems by twenty something. While I do believe men and women need their own lives I think men and women can socialize away from one another in ways that don't involve going out on the town. Women can "lunch", play golf, walk, and shop, while men can golf, play tennis, cycle, grab coffee, or a beer shoot their mouths and watch a game. I guess I feel if a man or women needs a girl's or guy's night out there's something missing in their relationship. My feeling is if either party is out on the town carousing than one is dis satisfied with their relationship and one doesn't really like, much less "love" their partner.

      He actually "likes" her, words I really liked hearing. The funny thing is if many of us actually think about whether or not we really "liked" past partners, we didn't. Funny enough two weeks prior to my marriage I couldn't stand my fiance' and yet I walked to my near death! A bit of an exaggeration but my one and only marriage did nearly kill me. Having had a marriage and a couple of relationships where I did not think of my partner as my best friend and I did not really like them, I know it's not for me. I want a man that actually "likes", me and a man whom I actually like as well. Until I find that man or he finds me, "I'd rather be single...for now!"
(c)Sean Bianca 2015

Friday, January 23, 2015

Legends...

     


        I was once nineteen years old. I was once young, I was attractive, I once had a cute figure, I was athletic and I was cool or at least I thought I was pretty cool.Funny thing is I didn't think twice about the fact that I was all those things and probably more. I was down to earth, and never gave a second thought to what a cute catch I was. No I was just "me". I was "Sean Bianca" who although thought she was pretty cool also had a bit of an inferiority complex, like many young women. Looking back I wish I had known what a catch I was. Perhaps I would have made better choices in men had I thought I was the creme of the crop. Oh how I wish I could have known what I know now, and start my life out again at nineteen, but I am not nineteen and if really I think about it I do not wish to live those years over again.

      Today I am forty something. As much as I hate to say it, I think I am middle aged? Though still in pretty good shape I know I do not have the figure I had at the age of nineteen. I know my face is not as full and plump. I know my toosh isn't as cute and tight nor as high. My chest is also not quite as high either. I know I am not as fast of a runner as I once was. I certainly am not running any two miles in ten minutes. No I am older. I know full well that I am not the "catch" I once was and I need not be told either. Unfortunately today a good many men seem to like to inform women in their thirties and forties that they are not what they once were, but neither are they!

     Newsflash,guys you are not what you once were either! Women are not the only ones aging! I know that men are legends in their own little minds, but I've about had it. I've had it with men that are overweight, and slovenly complaining about women in their thirties, forties on up. Since when does a man  have the right to tell a woman that she shouldn't have any bread with dinner? Since when does a man have a right to tell a girl that if she JUST worked at it, she could be what she was when she was all of twenty two? Since when does any man who is out of shape with a belly, flabby ass, and fat face have a right to demand a perfect firm and taught woman? Since when does a man who is losing his hair on  his head but growing it out his ears and nose, losing his neck but gaining a chin, have any right to criticize a middle aged woman? Since when? I say never! No man has the right to criticize a woman's body, hair or face, especially when he looks like an advertisement for Over eaters anonymous!

     Legends, that is the problem. Most men are indeed legends in their own minds. As I have no doubt that many of these legends were once incredibly good looking, womanizing schmucks that may well at one time have been able to demand perfection, they are not anymore. Unfortunately these so called "legends"do not see themselves as they are now, but as how they once were. I ask do these men have mirrors? If they do own a mirror, do they ever actually look at what's in the mirror? It seems "legends" that demand women with perfect figures are clueless as to what looks back at them in the mirror. Clearly these men do not wish to see that their chin is disappearing into their neck, or that they are not sporting six pack abs, and that their derriere is no longer firm. No these men still see the "Don Juan" of long ago!

   Personally I have had it with "legends". I have had it with these men insulting both me and my friends. As I do not have any unattractive, seriously out of shape friends I can say this, we all look a hell of a lot better than these men! As much as I have been told by men that men age better than women the jury is still out in my opinion. If women have unwanted hair, they remove it, if men have unwanted hair they flaunt it! I guess men that wear their unwanted nose and ear hair are just happy to have some hair so they wear it proudly! Nonetheless I am of the opinion that on the whole women seem to age more gracefully than men. Not all men but a good lot of men.

    Funny enough a friend of mine was actually considering getting to know a man better whom she had recently met. What's even funnier is that she dumped him before they ever got started. He might have had half a shot had he not told her upon seeing an old photograph that she could again look like that if she just started working out! Seriously? Well perhaps he could do a sit up or two, and get rid of his second chin? What is wrong with men? What is wrong with men is they clearly are legends in their own minds. These are men whom refuse to see that they are not what they once were, but feel free to let women know that they are not what they once were. Thankfully not all men feel that they are God's gift to women and that they are still the stud muffins of long ago. Yes thankfully there are some men that are not legends in their own minds and are in touch with reality! As I care not to listen to a "legend", tell me of his wants and needs for perfection I am along with many of my friends saying "I'd rather be single...for now!
(C) Sean Bianca 2015







       
     

Wednesday, January 21, 2015

Hole In One!




            Another year has gone by and many of us, myself included are single, and it's okay. Yes being single is "okay".  Being single is not a "death sentence", it's not a curse, and it's not a catastrophe, it's really quite fine. However a good majority of singles do not see being single as fine, but very much not fine. In fact many singles think being alone is quite dreadful. They seem to think it's very much like that of being on death row. Hello, just because one is single does not mean that it is the end of the world. It may feel like the end of the world, and it may feel like life is just full of gloom and doom, but it's not. Just because one is single does not mean the end of life on earth.  Although at times we all have wished for the end of life on earth. It's not, in fact it's far from it. The truth is being alone, can open up a whole new world.

     A whole new world being single? Seriously? Yes. Being single gives one time to do all of the things one doesn't do, but one should do when one is in a relationship. I'm speaking of playing sports, taking classes, traveling, hanging out with friends and or pets. Let me also add that when not dating one also has the opportunity to become "organized", and be "Suzy Homemaker"! When I am single I am so organized, it's scary. Why I am a little organizing hellion when single, hence why being single can be a truly good time.

        Look, I'm not going to lie. Being single downright sucks. I personally deplore being single. Never have I been single for as long as I have until recently,but it's a choice. The fact is, most singles could be with someone if they really wanted to "just" be with someone, and many of us do in fact settle and lower our standards so that we are not single. I've done that and I am the first one to say that "settling" leads to dis-satisfaction, unhappiness, and frustration. We could all be with someone if we really wanted to be with someone, but it's a little more complex when one decides that they want the "right" one and not just "anyone".

        The fact is just about anyone who is single can go out to any place at any time and meet someone whom they can date. Just recently I was asked to again dine with a man who has asked me out numerous times. If I wanted just anyone, I would have said yes, instead I again declined. If I wanted a man some twenty years older ,with lots of money who's all of five feet tall, if that, he would be my man! He's not. Unfortunately this man is not the "right" one for me. This man isn't even the "wrong" one for me. He's just not for me. As the dwarf was not my type I also had a chubby, sweaty, arrogant mess that tried his hand to entice me, and he also failed, along with one or two others. Yes in one night I met several men whom I could most likely be being courted by, but whom I had no interest in being courted by, dined by or anything. Why? "I'd rather be single, and have NO ONE, than waste my time with the"wrong" one.

    A good many singles would prefer to be with the wrong one and have companionship than stay single and wait for the right one. I too have dated many wrong ones and all that I accomplished was not being single and available for the "right" one. The scary thing about dating "Mr. Wrongs", is that they grow on us. These people whom we were just passing time with, us actually grow on us to the point that we actually think that we may be in love with them. We become blinded by desperation for companionship! Scary stuff! I know I've been there, we become blinded until someone comes along who knocks our socks off, or with whom we have much in common, or  with whom we have an intense connection. 

        I and friends have no desire to be with just anyone, and again it's a choice. Most adults would prefer to be in a relationship than not, it's normal! However rather then jump into something with the first dimwit that comes along,I and many others are taking time out to be "single" and that's okay. As being single can enable one to get to know themselves better, likes and dislikes, wants and needs. Being alone has really enabled me to know what I want out of a partner and what I won't settle for, nor should anyone else. I guess you could say I want my next relationship to be like that of a "hole in one"! In being single I have discovered that I want someone with similar interests, and values. I want someone whom has similar political views as well as an animal lover and best friend. I want what I want. I guess I liken being with the "right" one to a near perfect golf swing. An almost perfect golf shot is effortless, as the right relationship should be and the right one just doesn't come along everyday, and that's okay. I and many others have had numerous "mediocre" relationships, and I think we can all agree that being in the "wrong" relationship is painful and I for one am no longer settling for "Mr. Wrongs", and "Mr. For Right Nows",  I want "the one" or that "hole in one" and until I find him, "I'd rather be single...for now?"
(c)Sean Bianca 2014