It's easy to "settle". Anyone can be in a relationship tomorrow if they so desire. Seriously for BOTH men and women it's pretty simple. Let's face it if one is a single woman it's not difficult to get a man.Men are easy, men always want to get laid so it's a no brainer. Add to that a man without a job and there are a lot out there a man will be like a dog, he'll never leave. Now while men always want to get laid and are easy, women can be just as easy. Women are desperate,especially after the age of thirty. I admit it most women after the age of thirty successful or not are desperate to find a man. I'm not knocking these women, I get it! Women grow up wanting the whole "fairytale" and if men weren't such schmucks all women should have that fairytale. Sadly the fairytale is not easily found and therefore women become desperate and settle. Not to seem like Ms Perfection I've succumbed myself. I too have become desperate for love and romance and have settled for men who were unemployed, battling demons, battling addictions, and downright mentally ill. Thankfully I have outgrown that phase and am satisfied with being alone, and dating than to be desperate and in a relationship.
"Picky" I'm told I now am. Really? Well I say I am being "selective" not picky. The last time I tired of being "picky" I settled and married my now ex-husband. No I am not picky I am finally being "selective". I say better to be selective and single than desperate and in a relationship with someone that is not the "one". Funny thing about being selective, when one becomes selective one finds that there's no one to choose from. It's easy to find just anyone, but it's anything, but easy to find the right one. It's easy to meet a man, but when one doesn't want just any man it's not an easy feat. Oh one can easily meet men without jobs, men with tempers, men with anal retentive disorder, men who are grossly out of shape and over weight, men with narcissistic personalities, men who are sociopaths, and the list goes on in what dysfunctional men women can find. Overly flawed men are only a stones throw away, but men that have their you know what together are not so easily found.
Picky, selective however one chooses to view it is I am convinced the only path to meeting the partner that will last. I've been anything, but picky time and time again and had only failed relationships and wasted time to show for it. It has been my experience that in settling one only wastes precious time, time that could be spent leaving open to meet the right person. While those of us who are single may well be accused of being, "picky", I say not. We are "selective' and satisfied to walk away from what's easy and say, "I'd rather be single...for now!"
(c)Sean Bianca 2015